Question by AJ: Mom: right or wrong? or completely insane?
So I just got done with a heated argument with my mom just now.
A little bit about myself and my situation.. I’m a 15 year old male, graduated high school, looking into colleges, and looking for a job that’ll hire someone my age.
I worked my ass off, ten times as hard as everyone else in school to graduate earlier to get one (or two or three) steps ahead of the game. I wanted to get further in life at a younger than average life so I might be able to be able to enjoy my 20s, and still be successful. Can you blame me?
Before I graduated, my phone, which I had maintained and never so much as dropped it, let alone break it, for 3 years got confused by my sister who has a similar phone, and she ends up breaking it. So we look into upgrades and what-not. My mom notices this cool phone -$ 250. I click on it, check it out, find out that if we wait 3 months, I’ll be available to get it for $ 60. She offered to get it for me right there and then, since it wasn’t my fault for the phone breaking. But, being considerate and thinking about how times were hard, I tell her I’ll just wait it out. So in the meantime, I graduate, mom gets a promotion, buys my sister a new phone, move to a new house, yada yada yada..
About three weeks ago I realized it had been 3 months and I can get the phone for 60 bucks. But since I receive no allowance of any sort, and can’t seem to get hired anywhere at 15 even though I’m a high school grad, I’m broke. So I ask my mom if she can get the phone that she said she’d get me 3 months ago. She tells me “No”. “Why?” “Because you don’t have a job, and don’t go to school,” (earliest course starts in December by the way) “so why should I get you a phone?” “I don’t know. Maybe because you offered 3 months ago to buy it for $ 250 when we had no money and now you do have money and it’s $ 60 bucks and the reason I waited was to be kind and thoughtful of your situation? And perhaps some people think graduating high school three years early and sacrificing things like prom, sports, clubs and so-forth earns at least some sort of reward? A reward which isn’t even truly a reward because Bailey broke the phone in the first place?”
She didn’t give in, so without completely going nuts over a phone, I let it go, and decide I need to get a job so I can buy myself even the simplest luxuries which 99% of teens nowadays consider necessities.
That was three weeks ago. A week after that, mom decides to go on a furniture buying rampage to re-design the already expensive house she’s RENTING. 90% of the money she’s putting into the place will be lost when we move again because it’s a 1 year lease. So turns out she’s broke. with my awesome luck, I figure this all out the day I get a job – at none other than: McDonalds… yay me. So I tell her I got the job, and now I can start supporting basics for myself. And then she brings up her situation and tells me “since I’m a working MAN now, I can start helping out the family and pay part of the rent.” Wow.
There’s more to the story, but I won’t go on for another 5 hours. But briefly:
She won’t agree to pay any bit of my tuition for school, she wants me to hurry up and get a driver’s license so I can start doing grocery/basic needs shopping, but she won’t drive me to the DMV to get a license and I can’t take the bus there because from my house to the DMV I’d have to get on/off 6 different routes, and that’ll cost me $ 9 in california, I could only get 15 hours a week at McDonalds and she wants some of that so how am I pay for the bus tickets AND the TONS of fees for getting a driver’s license. Hell, even if I did get a license she’d probably tell me to buy my own car with my 15 hour a week salary.
It’s almost like she’s setting me up for failure after I put in so much effort and time and sacrifice to get ahead.
If you read all that, you poor soul..
Thoughts?
Counting down the days until I turn 18… I’m so splitting on that day. haha
Janica, I get where you’re coming from, but it’s not that I’m trying to pretend to be an adult, but still doesn’t want to pay for anything. My frustration is the fact that she expects me to be an adult in every aspect, yet doesn’t realize that I can’t support myself if I can’t get make enough money. To be honest, I know for a fact if i were an adult I could support myself because if I were an adult, i’d have a decent job and would be going to college, but since I’m so young, employers don’t see the maturity and responsibility in me, just the year I was born..
Thanks for all the answers so far, I wish I could choose more than just one best answer!
Best answer:
Answer by janicajayne
So, now that you’re graduated, why should she support you? You think you’re an adult, so now you get treated like one. Pay the rent, buy your own phone…sucks actually being an adult and not just playing at being one huh?
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good luck!
